I need someone to explain to me why women remain in a clique of friends even though it’s a toxic environment? Why do they insist in being those relationships when the majority of their time and energy is spent addressing bitchiness, ego stroking and competitions? It baffles me, really?
So these past couple of weeks, I’ve noticed that the people around me who are in “The Clique Thing” are constantly being hurt, disappointed and somewhat angry. We can never be perfect friends to each other but I believe there should be a common thread of courtesy, trust,respect and love. Loving someone is about knowing their faults, helping them be better people and also appreciating their strengths.
I can’t understand why there needs to be a competition about cars, jobs, clothes, how we look and even men! Why do you always want to be the Beyonce? What happens when at that particular club – there is no Jay-Z? We will never be the same. We don’t have the same goals. So why do girls feel like they need to be in race to be better than the other. If they spent more time bettering themselves – they would achieve more! There’s a clique of seven young women where two of them seem to have their life in order (I say seem because you only see what they show the public). While the other five are more obsessed with the type of hair they can buy. Now they five are constantly gossiping about how the “successful” two made it.
Another group of women – aged in their mid-forties – also seems to be held together by malicious gossip and
This brought me to question if you are friends, don’t you motivate each other to be better, to do better. Do you not discuss things like career growth, personal and spiritual growth. Do you not share wisdom from some of the lessons you’ve learnt? Do you not encourage each other to set goals; encourage each other to work hard and work smart to achieve those goals? Do you not support each other’s dreams? As friends, do you not motivate when one hits a dead end? Maybe if women focused more these these conversation topics there would be less gossiping, betrayals and bitchniness
Can we as women stop competing with each other???!!!Instead empower each other. You lose nothing from helping another person. For example – I posted last year about three women who inspire in different ways. Two are friends and one was a college mate. The first friend – her strength in spirituality and knowing herself motivated me learn more about me and how I wanted to better myself. The second friend is a trailblazer in the corporate world and her work ethic is admirable. The college mate always has a positive outlook on life and for that changed how I approached life – to concentrate on the goods and not let the negatives overwhelm me into despair.
I’m grateful for the friends I have. Even though they are in cliques – I have individual bonds with them. Relationships are special and help you make sense of life. Can we not take friendships for granted. Let’s remove ourselves from toxic cliques which we remain in just for the sake of having “friends.”
With that said… I’m out!
Love. Faith. Hope.